Day 20. So it begins, almost down to one calendar week until the self-imposed Facebook ban is lifted. I had a relatively busy night at work, but still managed to follow the IU/MSU game. WOW!!!!! Talk about some good old fashioned tournament style basketball!!! If that game was any indication, the Big 10 tournament and March Madness are gonna be off the rails crazy!!!!! My beloved Blackhawks tied NHL history tonight by becoming the 2nd team ever to play their 1st 16 games of the season and registering a point. For those of you who don’t follow hockey, their point system breaks down like this you get 2 pts in the standings for a win. 0 pts in the standings for a loss, but you get 1 pt if you lose in overtime/shootout. The Mighty Hawks are 13-0-3…this means in the shortened season they’re playing (which is only 48 games) they’re 1/3 of the way through and they’re on pace to be 39-0-9, which would be a lock for the President’s Trophy and obviously the #1 seed in the Western Conference. Anyhow, it is highly unlikely that they will go unscathed without a loss in regulation for the remaining 32 games.
With that said, I am willing to take my Facebook sabbatical to an even longer hiatus. If in the next 8 days the Blackhawks DO NOT lose a game in regulation, which will be 5 games, the fifth being played on March 1st, I will not use Facebook until they lose a game in regulation play. If they happen to drop one to the Blues, which if they do happen to lose their first regulation game, I would guess that is to whom it will be, I will resume Facebook activity effective at midnight on Friday March 1st. If they do not lose, I will not use Facebook until the Chicago Blackhawks lose their first game in regulation.
“Why would you torture yourself like that?”, you ask. Well I love, love, love, love posting about the Blackhawks. It is by far one of my favorite things to do on Facebook. I love it so much in fact during the FB hiatus, I posted about them on Twitter which is shared to my Facebook, so people knew I was still watching the Hawks. I love ’em. I really miss what my Hawk fan friends are posting, and I know they’re just as excited about this team as I am. I just can’t relish in that fact with them. So yes, it is sort of self-punishment. Anyhow, my beloved Bulls won tonight also, so with IU, the Mighty Hawks, and Los Bulls, I had myself a lovely sports trifecta!!!!
Now that that is all said and done, the sober living is going pretty well. The one thing that bums me out is before I decided to quit drinking I was pretty excited about having tonight (Wednesday) off because it’s karaoke night! I love to sing, and I love to make fun of those who aren’t very good at it. I am sad because it is in a bar, there is alcohol in the bar, I can’t drink alcohol. I could go and drink water and still have a pretty good time, and maybe even be a decent human being and be able to give someone a sober ride home. I just feel it’s too soon into this chapter of my life to blatantly go into a bar without the purpose or intent of making money.
I say that because on Friday I do have a gig. The gig is in a restaurant/bar. I play in the bar area. Yes there will be libations available, but the purpose isn’t to “go out” or what have you. The purpose is to make people smile and have a good time, and make some money at the same time. Typically I do like to drink when I play, it loosens me up right off the bat, as opposed to having to play two or three numbers in order to not be nervous.
So instead of intentionally throwing myself to the wolves and going out to the bar, where I would usually drink to get drunk, and not feel anything, I am going to refrain and abstain from that right off the bat. At some point I believe I will be able to enter that type of establishment and not want to have a drink. That’s not any time soon, that’s a fact, jack!
Plus there is an AA meeting tomorrow night at 7 and I would feel rather foolish leaving said meeting and going to a bar. That would make me sort of a hypocrite, wouldn’t it? I think it would. Some people can go out and drink in moderation, you know have a beer or two. I am one of those people who cannot. Once I get going, there is no “off” button. Depending on the company I am keeping when I am drinking, that is a potential recipe for disaster. Not what we’re looking for here. Positive changes!!! Looking toward a bright and clear and happy future. Not a dark, murky or sad one. With that said, I already feel a little bit better about myself because I made that step to say, “Hey jack, something isn’t quite right! You’re not as fine as you thought you were!” I told a friend of mine a couple of weeks ago that “happy” is a mask I wear.
Most of you who know me in person, know I’m a fun-loving guy. I love to have a good time, I love to laugh, I love to make people laugh. I am by no means a wallflower. When in the company of a Sir Ben Konowitz, I’m a hell of a second banana. I know there are ways to have a good time without the booze, but it’s been so long, I need to re-figure them out.
Over the course of last spring and summer, I played a ridiculous amount of basketball. It was always fun. I used to write about it in the blog. I just up and quit doing that. Why? I have no idea. Good exercise, I got to hang out with my friends. Our wives didn’t care because we were doing something constructive. Yeah we’re a bunch of mid-twenty to mid-thirty-somethings, but we all got together and played 5 hours of basketball a week. Whether it was for a release, or to get into shape, or to keep in shape. It was down right fun, and we had a lot of laughs. No alcohol was needed whatsoever.
I need that continuity in my life. I need some structure. When things aren’t structured that’s when it all goes south. When it all goes south, you might as well forget it. Well since this year started it’s been one blow after another, and I’m tired of living like I can’t do something about it. Like the only option I have is to drink whatever is ailing me all away. That is not an option. That is self-destructive behavior. The life I want to live has no place for that.
I am taking back control of my life and I’m going to make it a good one. I’m not getting any younger, and as we all know there are no “do-overs” in life. You get one. Make it count, but don’t go shouting “YOLO” cuz that shit is just stupid.
So far what I have begun to accomplish in 2013 is:
Learning how to be more patient
Learning how to be more empathetic to others in their situations
Learning how to find self control and not be over indulgent
What I need to focus on more in 2013:
All of those things, and then some. I know there is no perfect person. I know there really is no exact model to create a near perfect person. What I do know is that I need to make more of an effort to be the best me I can be. I really need to get back into playing basketball twice a week, eating well, quit smoking, be a better husband, be the best father in the history of mankind, and most of all put my family’s needs and desires before my own. When I get to that last one, then I think I’ll be ok. Not quite fine, not quite good, but ok.
So as things progress, the more open I will be on here. I know some people that I don’t even know have started following the blog. That is awesome. Whether they’re following because they think I’m a messed up individual and it makes them feel better about themselves, or if they find what I write genuinely interesting, it doesn’t matter to me. Everyone needs an outlet. Some people choose humor as a means of release and they can pull it off. I can’t write funny, never could. Never wanted to. I always thought that if I’m going to take the time and put pen to paper or fingertips to keyboard it’s going to be as honest as I can make it. Some people can’t do that either. To each their own. We’re all in this together. It’s life, we all live it, granted in different ways, but we’re all on a journey together and I think any support we can give to one another makes us all better people, so if you also are working on building a better you in 2013, a tip of the hat to you, my friend. Through each other’s inspiration and support, we can beat whatever demon has us pinned down in our lives. “No man is a failure, who has friends” and I’m blessed to have many. Until tomorrow!!!!!